Was Will Smith wrong? Should Chris Rock apologize? I really don’t care, and neither should  YOU! EITHER WAY IT DOESN’T MATTER IN YOUR LIFE. Focus on what matters in YOUR house and in your business.

But this is a MENS MASTERMIND and this event does show what can happen to a man when he is out of CONTROL. The world is talking about what happened, but we focus on the inner man and WHY Things happen.

A Man Out Of Control

WHAT we all witnessed in that short clip was a man out of control. A man who despite his wealth and fame let his ANGER and his EGO get the best of him. That is enough to bring any man down. Whether you have $20M or just $20 in the bank, Anger and Ego burn men quicker than fire.

People will say he was defending his “wife”, but he was trying to protect his EGO.

Will and his wife OPENLY and publicly had/have an open sex marriage. You can’t throw your marriage in the trash and get angry when it gets dirty after. If you allow for a dysfunctional relationship at home, it WILL cost you your career, your health, and your sanity.

Don’t Be Like Will 

The king never lets another man touch the queen. If you are married, take it seriously. If you let others inside your home, you will lose control of your own home. When a man doesn’t have his home base secure (WIFE/ QUEEN), everything becomes a reflection of that chaos. 

The internally weak man lets jealousy and insecurity enter his mind. That is a dark spiral into a WEAK man’s game. 

Years before I got married, I was in a relationship that was toxic and unhealthy. At the first comment or slight glare I was ready to fight any guy in proximity for being disrespectful to my “woman”. That is the first sign of an internally WEAK man, when a comment can throw you into a fit of rage willing to fight at the first opportunity of a wrong look. The lie is that we are fighting for the woman’s honor, the more truthful answer is that a weak man is fighting to protect his fragile ego and his desire to FEEL manly. Too many men have feelings of inadequacy and insecurity regarding their relationship. So instead of FIXING and ADDRESSING the real internal struggle, we as men make external wars to give us a sense of fighting. Many of us Men are being like Will, fighting the wrong fight. That situation will not make that woman respect him or love him any more. That situation does NOT show him as a good example for his children. That situation does not show a man in control of his emotions and actions.

5 Steps To Stay In Control 

Now it does give us a good reminder that no matter what status you are in life, we are one blow up from losing it. Gentleman, keep your focus. That mess was on Television with celebrities, I DON’T KNOW THEM OR CARE ABOUT THEM. But I KNOW YOU AND CARE ABOUT YOU. I want to see you focused and in control of your relationships, your mind, your actions and your life. Here are the 5 steps to stay in control:

1. Take care of your QUEEN at home. Prioritize her daily, and you will be supported when you go out to battle daily.
2. Remember (if you have children) you are a role model and an example and someone is recording your every move and especially your blow ups.
3. Let go of your ego and pride. Do this daily. Do this often. Men hold on this fake bar of EGO meanwhile their life is falling apart around them.Drop the PRIDE and pick up the pieces of becoming THE WHOLE man.
4. Build up yourself so simple comments won’t  break you down. Offense is only taken, not given. Don’t let minor offenses become major breakdowns.
5. Engage in your spiritual connection DAILY. If you have Peace within, NO one can grab it from the outside.

Written by:

Joffrey Gurule HeRose Founding Member